Okay, okay. I’ve been alluding to my Word of the Year for a while now. I’m finally ready to tell you what it is – but first, context.
This Word of the Year Discovery Tool was shared in the Growth Mindset Group I started at work. Basically, instead of creating a bunch of resolutions for the year, you pick ONE word to guide you over the next 12 months.
Not particularly skilled at following through with my New Year’s resolutions, I was open to a different approach for 2018.
It took me about 45 minutes to complete the exercise and come up with the word HUSTLE. I got all excited, told some people, and then panicked. What am I hustling towards? Will I spend my time and energy on the “right” thing? Wouldn’t my hustling be more effective if I was 100% sure about what I wanted to do?
I went back to the exercise. This time I landed on FOCUS. I figured I should spend the next 12 months getting really clear about what I want to do and who I want to be – only then would it make sense to hustle.
One of the questions in the exercise asks what your life would look like a year from now if you lived by your word every single day. When I told Courtney (my accountability partner) about my word, she asked me the same question.
If I focused every day for a year – where would I be? I tried to answer… “Well, I’d be ready to send an email to Person X at Company Y. I would know exactly what skills and qualifications I’d need for Job A in Field B.”
Courtney politely called me out: “Your energy is all wrong. I don’t want to tell you what your word should be, but that’s definitely not your word.”
That got me thinking.
Would my life really look different if I got more focused? What does focus even mean? I already did the work to find out my purpose. Isn’t that enough?
I’m constantly growing and changing. I’m not the same person I was last week, let alone a year ago. If I constantly wait for the “perfect” time, I’ll be waiting forever. Maybe instead of waiting and wishing and planning and trying to focus, I just need to do something. Anything at all.
That’s when I turned my attention away from the Word of the Year exercise, and toward my limiting beliefs. I needed to figure out what was really holding me back from doing the things I wanted to do.
What I learned surprised me. I was swimming in a sea of self-doubt. I didn’t trust myself to follow through on my commitments (which explains why I couldn’t commit to anything). I didn’t think I had the work ethic that’s needed to achieve and maintain success. I didn’t think I was knowledgeable enough, experienced enough, credible enough.
Spoiler alert: I didn’t think that I was enough.
In my Swipe Left on Your Limiting Beliefs exercise (coming soon), you’ll learn exactly how to get rid of your limiting beliefs and replace them with positive, inspiring, game-changing affirmations and mantras.
Once I did the exercise and proved myself wrong on all accounts – I felt unstoppable. I realized my insecurities were unfounded and that I hadn’t been giving myself credit where credit was due. The facts speak for themselves: I’ve done A, B, C and I know X, Y, Z. I can do anything, be anything, have anything I want. Why? Because I’m a BADASS.
That’s right, my Word of the Year for 2018 is BADASS.
A little cheesy, I know, but that word lights me up.
Almost a full year after I read Jen Sincero’s book You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life, I finally got the message: the only thing holding me back was me. My doubts, my fears, my limiting beliefs.
HUSTLE and FOCUS are all both powerful words, but they’re not mine. Not this year. For 2018, all I needed was a reminder that I am already enough. I know what I’m talking about, I know what I’m capable of and I know that I’ve got what it takes to live the life of my dreams.
I am a BADASS and 2018’s going to be my best year yet.
Not Quite There Yet – but doing it anyway
Do you have a Word of the Year? Let me know what it is in the comment below!